The Hawaiian word ho‘oponopono comes from ho‘o (“to make”) and pono (“right”). The repetition of “Pono” is to make right twice, right by both parties, right for you and the other or others involved. It is a way to forgive and be forgiven without resentment to create deep healing on both sides. This island tradition rejuvenates relationships through acceptance and letting go, and can be done both in a meditation or face to face. This is a powerful ritual as resentment can be humans biggest energy thief.

In this meditative ritual there are four steps that can be found in many spiritual practices. The steps are Repentance, Forgiveness, Gratitude and Love. Four simple but extremely powerful forces at work.

What you need

  • Comfortable place to sit
  • Candle
  • Lighter
  • Paper and pen

This is our version

Sit in a comfortable position – meditation cushion is the best with a candle, paper and pen nearby. Light the candle and centre yourself breathing in and out through your nose 7 times.

Be aware of your energy field ,you may want to burn sage or Paolo Santo, just feel into what is right for you. Bring the person in mind with whom you want to share this experience either energetically or physically, a person to forgive or to ask for forgiveness. Other variations maybe to share this forgiveness with yourself or even the universe in a more general way. The ritual can be, specific to one event or just energetic.

Focus on your heart chakra when saying the words out loud, just like a mantra. Visualize a light around and between you and the person in mind (or in front of you) as you repeat these words, meaning every word; I´m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.


Saying sorry is something we are taught as children – to say sorry – and we say the words a lot even if we don’t really mean it. We may even attach shame to apologies as we have not truly forgiven ourselves for the act and so we are not in TOTAL acceptance. So make sure that before you start this ritual you are in acceptance. Accept the event actually happened, it was you and show yourself compassion, FORGIVE yourself first and at the same time you are asking for forgiveness for OTHER. Remember this ritual will only work if you truly connect with your HEART in each stage.


It doesn’t matter who you are asking. Just ask – PLEASE FORGIVE ME- ask it and mean it ! Often we all interpret events in such different ways and we might be holding on to something the other doesn’t even think about or vice versa. It is common that we do not ask for forgiveness and then we are not given it, and the release does not happen. Asking for forgiveness is also a way of making amends asking if there is anything that needs to be done or said before forgiveness is given.


Showing gratitude is the language of the heart.

Say “THANK YOU” – again it doesn’t really matter who or what you are thanking. Thank the person for the lesson you have learned from them. If you are practicing this ritual with yourself – Thank your body for all it does for you. Thank yourself for being the best you can be. Thank Great Spirit. Thank the Universe. Thank whatever it was that just forgave you. Just keep saying THANK YOU.


There is no force more powerful than Love.

Say I love you to the person in front of you, Say I love you to your home, to the universe, to mother earth, to the water, the fires and the wind… Just say I LOVE YOU. Say it to your body, you hands and your toes. Say I LOVE YOU to the air you breathe, the food that you eat. Say I LOVE YOU to your shadows. Say it over and over. Mean it. Feel it.


Sit for a moment and feel your energy – Open your eyes

Write down what came up – just a few words – burn the paper in a burning pot – give it to Spirit.

Repeat as often as necessary!

With Love

XO Arabella